منتدى استراحات زايد - need help getting VB to run smooth on my server.

I'm having a bunch of issues with site. I'm told it has to do with my VB forums.
I'm going to post a few messages from the server co. and see if anyone is having the same problem or if someone can help with what I should do.

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Hello,

Upon further investigation, it appears that the server has 22000 messages in the exim queue, and all of them appear to be from Vbulletin errors. Some of them were from 6 days ago. This is what is causing the high server load.

The messages are delivering, but keeping the server load high. Do we have your permission to clear out the exim queue to get the server running back at a normal load? As said above, the messages all appear to be from vBulletin errors (under the american user).

Thank you for your patience.

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Hello,

I have increased the max_user_connections of MySQL to 50 and max_connections to 125. We can always raise this higher however raising it to high will also increase the memory usage of MySQL.

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Hello,

I had trouble logging in to your server as the load was well over 130. I was able to stop apache so I could login and check on this setting for you. I show that your server has processed well over 8,000 connections in under 2 minutes. Your server is processing about 53 requests per second and this appears to be normal traffic. You may need to look in to upgrading to a more powerful dedicated solution. The load is already back over 64 as I am investigating this.

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any ideas? Thanks for the help...