Database errors. My ISP has dropped the hammer on me. My fault or theirs? How to fix?
 

my domain is www.udpride.com

Here are the errors they are questioning which is why they shut me down:


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Time: 85% (15768 sec) Amount: 79% (84 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 187 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; SELECT * FROM datastore WHERE title IN (''*'options'*'bitfields'*'attachmentcache'*'forum cache'*'usergroupcache'*'stylecache'*'languagecach e'*'products'*'pluginlist'*'cron'*'profilefield'*' loadcache'*'noticecache'*'userstats'*'birthdaycach e'*'maxloggedin'*'iconcache'*'eventcache'*'mailque ue');

Time: 5% (968 sec) Amount: 3% (4 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 242 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; SELECT poll.** thread.pollid* open* threadid* replycount* forumid FROM poll AS poll INNER JOIN thread AS thread USING (pollid) WHERE open <> 10 AND visible = 1 AND thread.forumid IN(2*3) AND active = 1 ORDER BY poll.dateline DESC;

Time: 3% (617 sec) Amount: 1% (2 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 308 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; SELECT threadcount* replycount FROM forum;

Time: 2% (428 sec) Amount: 1% (2 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 214 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; SELECT varname*setting FROM pp_settings;

Time: 1% (214 sec) Amount: 0% (1 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 214 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; UPDATE session SET lastactivity = 1260538355* location = '/forums/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=2'* inforum = 0* badlocation = 1 WHERE sessionhash = '29f18898f70ded6cced40543556900c1';

Time: 0% (20 sec) Amount: 3% (4 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 14423 / 4000 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 5 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; SELECT postid FROM post AS post INNER JOIN thread AS thread ON(thread.threadid = post.threadid) WHERE post.userid = 5776 AND thread.forumid IN(6*2*18*19*1*4*15*16*17*5*3*7*8*9*10*11*12*13*14 ) ORDER BY post.dateline DESC LIMIT 1000;

Time: 0% (5 sec) Amount: 0% (1 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 5 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; UPDATE user SET lastactivity = 1260573788 WHERE userid = 9813;

Time: 0% (5 sec) Amount: 0% (1 queries) Rows Examined/Sent: 0 / 0 Avg. Query Exec/Lock Time: 5 / 0 sec.
use udpride_forums; UPDATE pp_cache SET timestamp=1260520485*randomcache='a:37:{i:0;a:11:{ s:2:"id";s:4:"1450";s:4:"user";s:7:"Chris R";s:6:"userid";s:4:"5535";s:3:"cat";s:3:"608";s:8 :"storecat";s:1:"0";s:5:"title";s:9:"Courtyard";s: 8:"ismature";s:1:"0";s:8:"bigimage";s:19:"UD-KU-courtyard.jpg";s:6:"height";s:3:"400";s:5:"width"; s:3:"300";s:8:"rand_col";s:17:"0.999746500514212"; }i:1;a:11:{s:2:"id";s:4:"1999";s:4:"user";s:7:"Chr is R";s:6:"userid";s:4:"5535";s:3:"cat";s:3:"583";s:8 :"storecat";s:1:"0";s:5:"title";s:9:"DSCF01581";s: 8:"ismature";s:1:"0";s:8:"bigimage ... [too long]
I can get to my database (forums) finally* but I cannot login or post. Almost like thoese features are diasbled. Their response was:

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We are notifying you that your account* or a portion or feature of your account has caused an overload on one of our servers. We have a shared hosting environment that we must maintain at a certain level of performance. This performance is monitored and balanced by us* however there are times when accounts can cause the server’s load to increase degrading the performance for all other customers on this server.

To protect your account from further action you must agree to our request for compliance. Please respond to this message stating your intent to do so. You may either log into your control panel with us* and access this ticket via the 24/7 help desk* or provide this ticket number to our Live Chat or phone representatives.
However my site traffic this week is LOW LOW LOW. We're talking 10-15 times lower than peak.

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Unfortunately* due to the overload* you will have to optimize or remove the above queries before we can reactivate your database. This is to prevent further overloads that affect all customer's on the server.
How do I optimize/fix this? Is it even my end??? I cant even log into my VB admin control panel to do anything if I wanted to. The web pages load at times but I get errors like :

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Database error in vBulletin 3.8.4:

Invalid SQL:

SELECT subscribeforumid* forum.forumid* lastpost* lastposter* lastthread* lastthreadid* lasticonid* threadcount* replycount* lastpostid* lastprefixid

FROM forum AS forum
LEFT JOIN subscribeforum AS subscribeforum ON (subscribeforum.forumid = forum.forumid AND subscribeforum.userid = 5535);

MySQL Error : Can't find file: './udpride_forums/subscribeforum.frm' (errno: 13)
Error Number : 1017
Request Date : Wednesday* December 16th 2009 @ 09:17:35 AM
Error Date : Wednesday* December 16th 2009 @ 09:17:35 AM
Script : http://udpride.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=3
Referrer : http://udpride.com/forums/
IP Address : [left intentionally blank]
Username : Chris R
Classname : vb_database
MySQL Version : 4.1.20-max-log
Im so stressed out. When I have issues like this* my entire livelihood is flushing away. Help?